Just diagnosed?
Take a breath. The first hours after a positive test are noisy with fear, internet doom-scrolling, and questions you do not have answers to yet.
Pick your condition below for the immediate, concrete next steps — the things that actually matter in the first week. Each condition links to deeper guides for when you are ready.
Three things that are true regardless of condition:
- Most STIs are either curable or fully manageable with modern treatment.
- You are not alone. The conditions in this list affect tens of millions of people in the US alone.
- The shame you might feel is not a fact about you — it is a culturally inherited reaction. It usually fades.
Diagnosed with Herpes (HSV-1 or HSV-2)
First-week checklist
- Confirm which type you have (HSV-1 vs HSV-2 — different transmission patterns)
- Get a prescription for valacyclovir or acyclovir (for outbreaks, and optionally suppressive daily therapy)
- Learn what your outbreak triggers are — most people identify a few personal patterns within months
- Disclosure: read a script before the first hard conversation. It is much easier with one prepared.
- Remember: herpes affects 1 in 6 adults. You are not alone, and you are not damaged.
Diagnosed with HIV
First-week checklist
- Get connected to an HIV care provider this week. Modern ART works fast — most people are undetectable within 3 months.
- Confirmatory testing: viral load + CD4 count establish your baseline
- Start ART (antiretroviral therapy) immediately — no reason to wait
- Understand U=U: undetectable = untransmittable. You cannot sexually transmit HIV once suppressed.
- HIV today is a chronic, manageable condition. Life expectancy is normal with treatment.
Diagnosed with HPV
First-week checklist
- Find out which HPV strain (high-risk or low-risk)
- For low-risk strains (warts): treatments include cryotherapy, podofilox, imiquimod
- For high-risk strains: follow your provider's cervical / anal screening schedule
- About 90% of HPV infections clear naturally within 2 years
- HPV is so common that 80%+ of sexually active adults will have it at some point
Diagnosed with Chlamydia
First-week checklist
- Get treatment: typically doxycycline 100mg twice daily for 7 days (or single-dose azithromycin)
- Notify partners from the last 60 days so they can also test and treat
- No sex during treatment + 7 days after — even with condoms
- Re-test at 3 months (test for re-infection, not treatment cure)
- Chlamydia is fully curable. Caught early, there are no lasting consequences.
Diagnosed with Syphilis
First-week checklist
- Stage matters: primary, secondary, latent each have different treatment
- Treatment: penicillin G injection (one shot for early stages; 3 weekly shots for late latent)
- Notify partners from the last 90 days so they can test and treat
- Follow-up RPR titer at 3, 6, 12 months to confirm cure
- Syphilis is fully curable. Modern treatment is reliable when given on time.
Diagnosed with Molluscum
First-week checklist
- Most molluscum clears on its own within 6-18 months without treatment
- Cantharidin or curettage are options for stubborn cases or kids with extensive bumps
- In adults with genital lesions: condoms + abstinence during outbreak reduce transmission
- Watch for the BOTE phase — bumps turn red and swollen right before clearing. Looks like infection. Usually isn't.
- Molluscum is benign and self-limited. No long-term consequences.
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Also useful in the first weeks:
Cross-cutting topics
These apply regardless of which STI you have. Worth reading in the first week or two.
How to tell a partner you have an STI
Real disclosure scripts that work — what to say, when to say it, and how to handle the response.
Mental health after STI diagnosis
The emotional aftermath is real and worth taking seriously. Coping tools, when to seek therapy, where to find peer support.
Can I still have kids with an STI?
For almost every STI: yes. Honest answers on fertility, pregnancy precautions, and partner protection.
When can I have sex again after STI treatment?
Different conditions have different timelines. Here is the practical answer for each.
You are not alone in this.
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