Hi, I’m Mother-Ad7354, and this is my story.

There are some wounds that don’t just heal with time. Some scars are invisible, but they shape who we become. Mine is a story of resilience, of witnessing the unimaginable, and of learning one of life’s hardest lessons: never tolerate a cheating partner, because the cost may be your life.

I grew up with a mother who was HIV-positive. I watched her fight a battle that she never signed up for. And the most painful part? It wasn’t just the virus that destroyed her — it was betrayal. My father, a serial cheater, gifted her a lifelong illness, a lifetime of suffering, and eventually, death. Her story is my warning to every woman out there. Walk away before it’s too late.

## **When did you first realize that your father’s cheating was more than just a betrayal?**

I was still young when I first noticed something was wrong, but I didn’t understand it at the time. My mother suffered from severe depression, and in 2009, she completely broke down. She lost herself, and my father refused to get her any medical help. Looking back, I now understand it was more than just emotional pain — her body was fighting a virus she never asked for. It wasn’t until 2015 that the full truth hit me: my father was a serial cheater, and my mother was paying the price for his recklessness. To this day, he still has multiple women. He never stopped.

I remember sitting in silence, trying to process what that meant. The realization that someone you trust, someone who was supposed to protect you, could also be the source of your greatest pain — it shattered me. I couldn’t understand how he could continue living his life so carelessly while my mother was wasting away. It made me angry. But more than that, it made me determined never to allow any man to have that kind of power over me.

## **How did the assumptions about you and your sisters being HIV-positive impact your self-esteem?**

Rumors spread like wildfire in our neighborhood. People whispered behind our backs, assuming that since we fetched ARVs for our mother, we must have been positive too. Even boys who once showed interest in us suddenly kept their distance. Our beauty, instead of being admired, became something feared — like we were cursed. But we never let their words break us. My sisters and I knew the truth, and we didn’t owe anyone an explanation. Our mother needed us, and we weren’t about to abandon her just to satisfy people’s ignorance.

The way society treats those affected by HIV is heartbreaking. People assume the worst without ever asking for the truth. They label you, they judge you, they isolate you. But what they don’t understand is that their cruelty doesn’t just hurt — it shapes you. It forces you to build an armor around yourself, to become strong even when you don’t feel it. And so we did. We carried our mother’s burden with pride because we knew she didn’t deserve any of the pain she was going through.

## **Why do you think women are conditioned to forgive cheating while men often refuse to?**

Society has always placed men above women. It’s a patriarchal system that teaches women to endure, to sacrifice, to make a marriage work at all costs. We grow up hearing stories of women who stayed, who forgave, who “prayed for their husbands.” But when a woman cheats? It’s the end. A man’s ego won’t allow him to forgive. He walks away without hesitation.

Many women, especially those who are financially dependent, feel like they have no choice but to stay. They are told to "think of the children," to "not break the home," as if their well-being is secondary to a man’s mistakes. But let me tell you this — your health, your life, is worth more than any marriage.

If my mother had walked away the first time she suspected my father of cheating, maybe she would still be here today. Maybe she wouldn’t have had to suffer through years of illness, betrayal, and heartbreak. But she was raised to believe that a woman must endure. That love means sacrifice. And in the end, that belief cost her everything.

## **Do you think people have become too casual about HIV because of modern medicine?**

Absolutely. People treat HIV like it’s just another manageable condition, like diabetes or high blood pressure. Yes, ARVs help, but have you ever watched someone struggle to take them? Have you seen the resentment in their eyes every time they swallow those pills? I have. And let me tell you — it’s not easy. The side effects, the emotional toll, the constant reminder that your body is fighting a battle it didn’t choose. It’s not something to take lightly. But people do. They fear pregnancy more than HIV these days. That mindset is dangerous.

## **What do you think is the biggest misconception about HIV today?**

That it’s no longer dangerous. That it doesn’t kill. That it’s just “a pill a day” and life goes on. No one talks about the depression, the struggles, the rejection people face once they’re positive. Young people take risks because they believe medicine will save them. But I’ve seen what this virus does. It doesn’t just take lives — it takes dignity, it takes happiness, it takes peace.

## **If cheating men knew they could get infected, do you think they would be more careful?**

Some, maybe. But let’s be honest, many of them know the risks, and they still don’t care. They believe they’re invincible. They think it won’t happen to them. They gamble with their lives and, worse, with the lives of their wives and girlfriends. And when they do get infected? Many of them still choose to spread it. It’s disgusting, but it’s the reality.

## **How do you rebuild your sense of self-worth after being betrayed by someone you loved?**

I never tie my self-worth to another person. If someone cheats on me, that’s on them. It doesn’t mean I’m not good enough, it means they lack integrity. I refuse to let someone’s infidelity define my value. If I am betrayed, I walk away. I won’t cry over someone who didn’t respect me enough to stay loyal. My self-worth is built on who I am, not on how someone else treats me.

## **What’s the biggest lesson you learned from watching your mother’s battle?**

To never, ever, forgive a cheating man. Cheating isn’t just a “mistake.” It’s a deliberate choice, one that puts your life at risk. HIV is not a game, and love should never cost you your health. If a man disrespects you once, he’ll do it again. And one day, it won’t just be disrespect — it might be a death sentence.

## **If you had to sum up your message in one sentence, what would it be?**

Protect your body at all costs and be selfish about your health — you only have one life.

I share my story not for pity, but as a warning. HIV is still real, still dangerous, still something to be feared. Don’t let love blind you. Don’t let society pressure you into staying with a man who doesn’t respect you. Your life, your health, your future — it’s all in your hands. Choose wisely. Walk away before it’s too late.

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<p>Infidelity isn’t just betrayal — it can be a death sentence. My mother paid the ultimate price for my father’s choices. This is my warning to all women.</p>

Men Cheat, Women Die: The Deadly Price of Infidelity

Infidelity isn’t just betrayal — it can be a death sentence. My mother paid the ultimate price for my father’s choices. This is my warning to all women.

Men Cheat, Women Die: The Deadly Price of Infidelity

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